Not that any of the other high IQ types out there need validation; Aaron Clarey’s new book “Curse of the High IQ” sounds like a book many of us need to read. In his blog post he provides a sample of what to expect:
The HR ditz also Introduces a new aspect of careers and the employment world. One that is the bane of existence for abnormally intelligent people.
“Soft” or “people skills.”…
The problem is high IQ people (unless they jettison their morals) simply can’t do this which puts them at a disadvantage in the employment world.
First they cannot keep up the charade or façade of emotional interest. It just isn’t in their nature and it’s simply too taxing mentally. High IQ people can plainly see a problem for what it is, what logical decisions need to be made in order to solve it, and can remove any emotional or psychological preferences they might have about it. They offer direct, blunt, emotionless solutions that are guaranteed to solve the problem, but unfortunately step on people’s precious little toes.
This then leads to a second problem, because not only does the majority of clients prefer good feelings over production, but so too does the majority of co-workers and bosses. Your entire employment environment is driven by everybody’s insistence you place feelings and emotions over reality and truth. This is simply maddening for smart people because what needs to be done in the real world counters what your boss, co-workers, and clients are demanding of you.
The above, in a nutshell, is something I’ve noticed but have never heard anyone else detail aside from myself, in my own head, then immediately chastising myself for being exactly this way because it’s known that the squeaky wheel doesn’t always get the grease, it gets replaced despite it being made of solid fucking gold.
People like nice. I like it too, but in almost every case where I’ve interacted with a really nice person, inevitably I find out that they’re merely passive aggressive nice. I would rather interact with a stone cold serious boss or employee who I know will consistently tell me the succinct straight up truth, than one who feels the need to dramatically drag things on and on because they can’t tell the whole truth when they’re trying to be nice.
When dealing with me? Be authentic or gtfo. You can expect the same from me. I may be poor in soft skills, but I’m rich in real talents necessary to get a job done. I for one am anxiously awaiting Mr. Clarey’s new book. It will be interesting to see how he develops this whole discussion of being smart as opposed to being nice.
And no doubt you personally have experienced some instance of contradictory insanity in your own job where reality is telling you “X” and your boss is threatening to fire you if you don’t do “Y.”
It doesn’t matter. Dumb and average people account for the majority of the customer base. Dumb and average people also account for the majority of workers at your firm. Thus, it is feelings and emotions that rule the day, guaranteeing you will suffer this cognitive-dissonance insanity during your entire career.
Indeed. Not quite the story of Sisyphus, but the “feelz” behind the tale rings true for every high IQ person out there. Lets hope that Clarey reveals the burden smart people have when dealing with the average person on a daily basis.
UPDATE: Buy the book here.